Let’s talk about Sex baby, let’s talk about You and Me.Stephen Farah
2) If you want to understand some one, understand them sexually. Where this is not going to happen physically (i.e. in most cases) allow your intuitive imagination to guide your understanding.
- What do you enjoy, what don’t you enjoy?
- What do you want, what don’t you want?
- What turns you on? Why do certain things turn you on, what does this say about who you are?
- How do you relate to the other in the act of sex? Are you a giver or a taker? Dominant or submissive? Rigid or plastic (in your approach not your phallus fool :-)).
- How does the sexual act leave you feeling, satisfied and fulfilled or empty, desirous of more or repulsed?
- Does sex make you feel desirable, beautiful, guilty, sinful, or a combination of these?
- Do you think you are entitled to the sex you desire?
Consider for example what the short sexual biography I shared above says about me. What impression do you form of my sexuality and my attitude to sex? Do I seem comfortable with my sexuality, liberated or do you sense guilt and possibly repression? What do you think that it says about me in the world, how could you expect to encounter me, what would I be like, how would I behave? Now whilst this isn’t a perfect metaphor, I would probably still have the ability to surprise you (or at least I hope so :-)), it does give you a valuable insight into who you are dealing with.3) Whilst we must of necessity learn the art of sexual sublimation, when it comes to acting out our most passionate sexual imperative, sublimation is frequently a poor substitute for the real thing. Or, to put it simpler, you cannot, nor should you, always act on sexual desire, but where you can it’s probably for the good at least psychologically. We get to know who we are, what we want and how we relate to others in a profound, real and honest sense when we consider how these aspects of ourselves are expressed sexually. It is a very direct path to self-knowledge and for the astute provides valuable insight into others. Sex becomes really interesting when viewed psychologically rather than biologically. The Erotic is a function of the mind, not of the body. Although of necessity it is the embodied mind. Until next time, I bid you adieu, Stephen.