The Fantasy of Shirley ValentineAnja van Kralingen
So really what is the question? Is it better to start anew if you find your life meaningless, or is it better to take what you have and get meaning from that? What is your take on it? FREEDOM IS…? Freedom is different things to different people. I am not talking about freedom in the broad sense, but personal, in your life right now. Do you feel completely bogged down by your responsibilities? Are you being suffocated by your partner, your children, your boss, your life? Is this the reason for your longing for freedom? Let’s consider this for a moment. More time to yourself, less responsibility, free to have sex with someone else, free to drink and drug it up, doing only what you want to do, have total autonomy. Please feel free to add whatever you think constitutes freedom to you here. But just imagine having all that freedom. Would you really be free? No, you would probably not feel free at all, because you would find yourself living a life with no meaning yet again. Freedom means living a life filled with meaning. WHERE ARE YOU AT? How can you separate who you are from the life you are currently living? Surely it is not a mistake that you are where you are. You got to this point as a culmination of all the choices (conscious and unconscious) that you have made. • If you are a fatalist and find yourself here because it just happened, I suggest to you that it is exactly where you should be. • If you find yourself here because you planned to be here, I suggest to you as well that it is exactly where you should be. It is not a coincidence that this is your life! It reflects who you are and what is important to you, and if it doesn’t, reassess what you want and what is important to you. You CAN have it all – freedom and meaning right here. The road to freedom and meaning is unique for each one of us, it is not captured in a formula and no-one can show you the way. It involves a process of turning inwards to find what is important to you and what you want. Only then can you pursue these goals of meaning and freedom. Until next time. Anja If you enjoyed this blog, read Stephen’s blog “Becoming”.
- Perhaps the problem is not that there is no meaning in your life as it is, but rather that you are unable to see it.
- Perhaps, you should never have let this happen – allow your life to become meaningless in the first place.
- Perhaps you had to bash your head against the same wall for years to get to this point of wanting to change.
- Perhaps you can never be fulfilled – it is not your destiny.
- Perhaps being fulfilled and happy is not important to you, there are other things like duty that is more important.