May 3 • Anja van Kralingen

To Have or Not to Have an Ego

In Western culture, the ego has had a bad rap. Most people think that an ego is something negative. That it should be suppressed. You have an overinflated ego, or you are egocentric or egotistical.
And Eastern religions say you should abandon it altogether, as it just causes problems. :)
But what is the ego? Is it something good or bad?
Should you give up on it or hold on to it?
In both analytical psychology (Jungian) and psychoanalysis (Freudian), the Ego plays an important part in the development of a healthy psyche. Without the Ego, there is no central point or driver of the psyche.

Freud’s Ego:

In Freud’s model of the psyche, there are three main psychic “apparatus”, namely the Id, the Ego, and the Superego.
The Id is instinctive and will pursue all the things you want and want to do, whilst the Superego is your conscience, and its goal is everything that you should be doing.
Somewhere in the middle of these two drives is the Ego, who needs to find the balance between what you want to do and what you should be doing.
A very good analogy to the Freudian concept of the Ego is found in the Lord of the Rings saga, where Samwell (Frodo’s best friend) performs the function of the Ego in his role. He is the quiet, strong one, not heroic, but realistic. He plods along, being practical and supportive, and unwavering in his commitment to the goal.
Ultimately, Freud’s Ego acts according to the Reality principle. It is the Ego that determines whether your fantasies, dreams, and desires are realistic and if you are able to achieve them. The Ego will then assume the role of setting goals and working towards achieving them.
I am sure we all know some people who live in a fantasy world, and they do not seem to adhere to the reality principle. Psychoanalysts attempt to bring these people back to reality by strengthening their Egos and pointing out to them the irrationality of their fantasies.

Jung’s Ego:

In Jung’s model of the psyche, the Ego takes on a slightly different role.
Jung’s Ego is the hero. The goal of Jungian psychology in terms of the Ego’s development is to strengthen the Ego through introspection and integration of the Shadow. Mythologically speaking, the journey to individuation is all the trials and tribulations that the hero attempts, and by fulfilling these tasks, overcomes his own fears and weaknesses.
Looking at the same example of The Lord of the Rings, the Jungian Ego is Frodo, who has to find the courage within himself to overcome his fears and desires, and ultimately destroy the ring. The hero’s journey is fraught with obstacles and danger, designed to distract him from achieving his goal. He has to find the courage to embrace the hero within himself, or to become the hero, depending on your perspective.
If a patient enters analysis, the Analyst will strengthen the Ego through integration of their Shadow (well, hopefully :)). Through this process, projected Shadow content is made conscious and integrated into the Ego. The Ego then becomes progressively stronger, and its ability to make choices and act upon them becomes greater.

The Hero’s Journey:

The process of individuation is a process of becoming ourselves.
It is giving birth to who we are.
Frodo is the archetypal “good guy”. He has no evil in him, or desires which cannot be met. He is content living amongst the hobbits. His journey starts here.
But then, something new is introduced to him, a ring of power.
The ring is a symbol of ultimate power, and to regain autonomy, Frodo must destroy the ring, which threatens to overpower him and control him. This metaphor describes how the unconscious complexes can take hold of us and turn us into slaves to fulfill their own desires, not our own. Gollum is his shadow, that which he would become if he gave in to the power of the ring. He really struggles with this, seeing Gollum as his Shadow. Sam is not fooled; he can see the shadow clearly, but Frodo tries to find the good in Gollum. It is only when he accepts the darkness in Gollum as real and unwavering that he is able to let go of the ring.
It is the process of exploring unconscious beliefs that tie us to a lifestyle and persona with which we are identified, but which we ultimately are not. All the monsters in the hero’s journey are the unconscious complexes that reside in our psyches, and they have their own agendas. The light or fire that is used to dispel them are symbolic of the tools of consciousness: illumination, reflection, and assimilation.
The hero’s journey involves looking your own dragon in the eye and overcoming it. As the mountaineer Sir Edmund Hillary said, It is not the mountain you conquer, it is yourself.”

The Jungian Goal:

So, you can see that from a Western psychological perspective, the Ego performs a very important role.
If the psyche is a vehicle, the Ego is the driver. Or another example, you can either be on the outside of the spinning wheel, going up and down and spinning out of control, or you can be the central axis of the wheel, being conscious of what is going on around you, but centered and in control. Individuation allows for the development of a bigger personality, becoming who you are in totality, a true individual who contributes their unique essence to the world.
Of course, I am making it sound quite easy when in truth, it is not. You will frequently find yourself spinning out of control, and sometimes you can reflect on it for years without a satisfactory outcome.
But it is the hero’s journey, fraught with danger, disappointment, and monsters.
Until next time.
Anja